A good friend of mine told me today that my blog— my emails in particular, could use a little TLC.
It got me thinking.
Many of us are spending our time and energy looking for praise or validation for the work we do.
In a way, it’s understandable considering the effort we put into it— assuming you’re the kind of person this blog is designed for.
It’s easy to convince ourselves that the work we’re doing is exceptional if the people around us are telling us it’s so.
But if we’re constantly asking for approval and placing value only on the times it’s given to us, how are we, and our work, supposed to grow?
Two remarks that are often made to/about me are:
- I’m overwhelmingly positive and;
- I’m hyper-critical of my own work
It’s this paradox that has gotten me to where I am both in my professional and vocational occupations.
When asking for thoughts and opinions regarding your work, try to deter from seeking out praise.
Approach these moments as an opportunity to ask, perhaps, “Where could it improve?” or “Can you find fault with this?”
The way I see it, I’m not going to be upset with you for offering a potential solution to a problem I’d either neglected to recognise or chosen to ignore.
It’s exactly these kinds of interactions that encourage personal and professional growth and, in the end, isn’t that the point?